Friday, November 30, 2012

I Am A Student of Nature - Autumnal Lessons



The other day my friend, Adadot, posted a picture of the tree in her backyard, a lovely tree filled with gold and red leaves signally the change of seasons in her neck of the woods.  


It reminded me of the years when I grew up in the Midwest.  Memories of walking to football games in the crisp evenings with the sound of crunching leaves underfoot, putting away the summer lawn furniture, taking out the heavy coats and sweaters.  At first I felt some regret at living in our Pacific Coast California paradise because we do not have a change of seasons.  But then I realized that I was not being truthful…we do have seasonal changes.  They may not be as dramatic as what occurs in other areas of the United States but things change, the pace of life slows, we pull in, hunker down, go within, contemplate, replenish, and wait for a sense of rebirth when spring arrives.

Yesterday a cold front arrived in Los Angeles bringing with it cooler temperatures, overcast skies and threatening rain.  We turned up the thermostat and prayed the furnace would remember how to ignite.  And I went to the pantry to prepare an appropriate meal…something substantial, comforting,  that would warm us on the inside as well. Maybe a nourishing soup.   I reached for my package of dry split peas.

My grandmother loved to cook with dry legumes.  Pasta Fagiole was a familiar winter dish.  It was considered poor people’s food because often it was meatless…just beans, some vegetables, a little pasta and broth.  Over the years I have expanded my repertoire to include other legumes like split peas.  This go-to recipe is a favorite.

Hearty Split Pea Soup with a Surprise

In a few tablespoons of olive oil, I sauté two large chopped carrots, two stalks of chopped celery (with leaves if possible) and one large diced onion, until soft.  Then I add 3 chopped cloves of garlic, some red pepper flakes, a sprig of rosemary, a couple sprigs of thyme and 4 large sage leaves from the garden and a couple of bay leaves.  I mix it all together, add the pound of dry split peas, and then 6 cups of liquid.  I usually use canned chicken broth, but any broth or even just water could be used.
I bring it to a boil and scoop out any foam that may begin to accumulate on the top and then lower the heat and let it simmer, covered for one hour.  I check it frequently to see if it needs more liquid and stir it around a bit.  I watch as the peas begin to soften and wait until it is very soft. Sometimes it reaches this point in an hour…sometimes it takes as much as 30 minutes longer.  Some people like to puree the soup at this point, but I do not.  We like it hearty and kind of chunky.  I taste it and season it with salt and pepper, and let it cook slowly for another 10 minutes or so. Then I add my “surprise”…about 1 cup of frozen sweet peas…just dumped into the hot soup.  I let it sit covered for a few minutes and the peas thaw and warm in the hot soup.  This is a vegetarian dish but the split peas can also be cooked with a smoked ham hock or with sautéed diced pancetta or bacon or ham for meat lovers.

I serve it with grated Italian cheese, a drizzle of olive oil, and accompanied by slices of Italian bread toasted in a skillet with a little olive oil and sprinkled with salt. 



Today I ventured outside between rain showers and looked at the garden.  Growth is stilled and nature has entered a time of rest and renewal. It feels calm and right.  The days are shorter and everything is telling me to enter into this autumnal time…to rest, to replenish, to slow down, to lose myself in the stillness or maybe a good book and eat a bowl of soup!

So….tonight we will have the left-overs! 




Wednesday, November 21, 2012

I Am A Grateful Person - Approaching Thanksgiving

There is a serendipity about life.  Inspiration comes from various places.  This morning in my cyberspace wanderings I came upon this quote that gave me pause:
Here is the world. Beautiful and terrible things will happen. Don’t be afraid.
―Frederick Buechner
Today, after a quick run to the Farmers' Market, I will spend most of my day in the kitchen.  Tomorrow, Jay and I will go to my son's home to share in a Thanksgiving buffet with members of our family and Milli's family.  So this afternoon I will prepare my contributions to the feast.  And as my hands, my fingers, are engaged in my chopping, kneading, sauteing I know that my mind will be just as busy working the thoughts of remembrance which is what this holiday seems to trigger in me.  I will recall the past year, all that has occurred in my life since our last Thanksgiving.  I will recall the faces of the all the people I hold dear.  I will recall the times that filled my heart with joy: Jay, his presence, his head next to mine on the pillow, his consistently bringing me my morning cup of coffee; the radiance of Gabriel at all of his school events, his hockey games, his sleep-overs; my regular walks and heart talks with my friend, Cindy; the satisfaction of learning knew skills, conquering a new computer, knitting a new pattern; little jaunts like our week in Napa shared with Jayne;  the family dinners around my kitchen table with my children; the reconnection with old, dear friends like Julie and Theresa. 

I will also recall those moments that filled my heart with pain, those times when I thought my heart would literally break like the recent death of my mother. The times when someone I loved was ill or facing the loss of a job or overcome with loneliness or depression or struggling with decisions about an elderly parent. The times when I felt so powerless to change what life was presenting.

This past week I was gifted with a moment of joy when my youngest son, Marc, asked his love, Charlotte, to be his wife.  This son has waited a long time to take this step.  I think all parents really want in life for their children is their happiness.  I am fortunate in that I have grown very fond of the woman who has captured his heart.  Charlotte has a beautiful warm spirit that draws you in.  As for Marc,  my heart filled as I watched his face and his excitement. I love who Marc is when he is with Charlotte.

Congratulations to Marc and Charlotte!!

The Italians have a lovely phrase for events like this...those moments when your heart fills, moments where there are no words. They say "È una bella cosa!"  It is a thing of beauty!

Italians are also known to have a sense of fatalism...that little gene that during the beautiful times continues to whisper in my ear, "Be alert, be ready, because this will not last forever and the difficult times might be just around the corner."

I know there is an ebb and flow to life and I know that I am powerless to effect how or when things will occur.  In my life's journey I am continuing to learn that all I can do is show up and try to be 100% present to life in the moment and to trust that this too will pass, the beautiful and the terrible,  and all things will move toward ultimate good.  Today, I am grateful!

Friday, November 9, 2012

I Am A Supporter - Visiting Homeboy Industries

Why is it that as life is progressing forward, it can feel so random and chaotic, but when viewed in the rearview mirror, there is an obvious path visible?  Over 30 years ago, when my sons were in Loyola High School, we met one of their teachers, a young scholastic who was studying to become a Jesuit priest...Mr. Boyle.  Greg became a mentor to the boys and a friend of the family.  Over the years we have stayed in touch and followed his path as he continued to make the world a better place and consistently share the message of Jesus as he understood it.  He went from high school teacher, to parish pastor, to founder of Homeboy Industries, choosing to spend his life helping young people who were caught up in gang life and willing...change their lives.



Last week, we were invited by our friend, Pat, to join a group of her friends in a tour of Homeboy Industries.  This group has formed with the purpose of bringing more compassion into our world and through reading, discussion and action, are trying to make a difference.  While we have watched the growth of Homeboys and have supported their efforts financially, we had never actually set foot inside their doors so we were eager to join them.

First of all the entire building is impressive...a huge complex that houses the answer to every need that any former gang member would have as they attempted to exit their gang life and enter a new life's path.  It would take volumes to share all the details of this amazing operation, but the photos I took of our visit will give a small sense of this reality.

We were greeted right on the time of our appointment and Francesco became our host/guide for the day.

We started outside where he gave us a brief history of Homeboys and showed us the garden where the cooks for the Homegirl Cafe grow their own herbs while also sharing his personal story of how he came to Homeboys.


He initially came for the free tattoo removal offered to anyone who wanted it


and while there, Fr. Greg stopped him and asked him if he would like a job...the condition being that he leave the gang, get off drugs and be able to pass frequent and random drug tests.  His path was not straight, he had some dips and turns, but there he was talking to us, proudly sharing Homeboys and his hopes for his future.


Homeboys started small...Fr. Greg working to find jobs for those caught in the web of gang life believing that "Nothing Stops a Bullet Like a Job!"


Over the years they created a silk screening shop where the graphic art talents of the youth could be put to good use.


They created a bakery that makes and delivers breads and pastries to customers, shops and various Farmers' Markets.


Gradually they built a huge network of volunteers and employees who offer counseling, parenting skills, anger management, drug rehabilitation, computer skills, job interviewing skills and coaching, employment assistance, housing assistance, job referrals, and two classrooms always filled with a variety of classes.


Realizing the need to young girls to also be included in this outreach, the Homegirl Cafe was opened where women develop the skills necessary to work in a restaurant environment while building their own self-esteem.



Each day at Homeboys begins with a Morning Meeting held in their lobby.  Here are the main offices, a shrine to fallen Homeboys, and the receptionist.


Part of the morning is a "Thought for the Day" given by one of the staff, and sometimes by Fr. Greg.  This can be seen on Youtube or at the Homeboys website.



The path from the life of the gang to a healthy productive life with a future that hopefully doesn't include a bullet is not easy.  Often it is just a small need that can be the stonewall that prevents someone from moving forward.  Fr. Greg has tried to answer each of those needs in this enterprise and all in an environment that conveys the message that no matter what, you are just what God intended and you are GOOD!  You can not be exposed to this message without wanting to joining hands and become a part of this community.  It is easy to do.  It can be as simple as buying a copy of Fr. Greg's recent book, "Tattoos On The Heart,"


buying Homeboys chips and salsa now carried at all Ralph's markets, stopping in at the Homegirl Cafe for brunch, sending a check to be used as they need.  They are also always in need of willing people with special skills to donate their time and presence.  Right now they are in need of psychologists and counselors.

After the tour we treated ourselves to lunch at Homegirl Cafe.


We left the day with busy heads, full of thoughts about how a generous, compassionate heart can make a difference and with open hearts, filled with the love and hope that exists within the walls of Homeboy Industries.


Friday, November 2, 2012

I Am A Grandmother of a Zombie - Halloween 2012



I have to admit that I have never been one to get excited about Halloween.  As a child growing up in Kent, OH, Halloween was usually a cold evening.  I looked forward to going “trick or treating” with my brothers, cousin Bobby, and neighborhood friends, but the costume was not a big deal.  Most years, I was a hobo…wearing one of my dad’s old overcoats for warmth and carrying a stick with a kerchief tied into a hobo’s pack on the end.  I carried a pillowcase for my “stash” and could tuck my hands into the big deep coat pockets to keep them warm.  The items given out to the children were not the individually wrapped bite-sized candies but were often home-made items like popcorn balls, cookies or candied apples.  Some houses were waiting for us, one woman made hot donuts dusted with cinnamon sugar that we ate hot out of the frying oil!  Another house invited us in for a cup of hot chocolate.  One house of grandparents waited for the neighborhood children with a large jar of 12 inch thick pretzels, but before we could get our treat, we had to do a trick…entertain them.  My entertainment was a quick version of the tap dance, the times step! My cousin always sang “Happy birthday to you….”
As an adult, I have never donned a costume for a Halloween event and only attend if it says, “Costumes optional!”  Our annual members meeting for Omnilore is always designed around the Halloween theme and while I can admire the creativity that many display in their costumes, there is something a little eerie to me in seeing an 80 year old woman, dressed as Little Red Riding Hood!  Something gets lost in the translation!
But I love experiencing the excitement of Gabriel, as he prepares for the holiday.  I can tell he is getting older because he has graduated from the “super hero” stage to the “blood and gore” stage.  This year he was a zombie. 


 He was able to access the creative talents of his cousin, Vidah, who came to his house at 7:00 am to begin the work of the “make-up artist” and perform her magic on his face. 

Vidah performing her magic!

 Jay and I attended this Halloween Parade at his school 


and took pictures afterwards of his class.   


Michael with his son, the Zombie!

After school we took him to visit his grandmother, Lola.  


Gabriel with his parents!
He loved getting into the role of his costume and he thought he looked good!  He is growing up so fast and we want to make sure we don’t miss any of these moments to share in his life.  

Our grandson, the Zombie!

 So grateful that we live close enough to be present!