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| Jay and Miriam at the Horse Exhibit at the Natural History Museum |
Miriam has one daughter, Jayne...and it was to Jayne that we went. Jayne is "her mother's daughter!" Very competent, intelligent, focused, she was doing all she could to cope with the details that accompany the death of a loved one. But she was alone. It was clear when we arrived that she could handle things, but what Jay had to offer her was the gift of our presence. And we gave that freely.
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| Lunch at the local Pub |
We were a sounding board as she composed letters, made lists of things to do and people to see. We were with her as she made difficult decisions and reassured her when needed. We stood beside her. We cried with her and we laughed with her. We even went on a "Pirate Booty" run to Walmart so she could stock up on low calorie junk food!
With her we remembered her mother and we laid her to rest.
I was reminded of a truth I really learned long ago, when my father died. No one can take away the reality of that loss and no one can take away the pain, but sometimes all you really need is to have someone be with you as you walk this piece of life's journey. Jay was that presence for Jayne and I was that presence for Jay and Jayne.
Miriam, you will be missed!
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Jay must be lonely without his sister and Jane without her mother. You are their strength now. Take care. Warm hugs.
ReplyDeleteWhat a moving tribute. You and Jay are such treasures and so generous with your time, devotion and care. I am sorry that you were not able to be with her before she passed. Prayers, love, and peace sent your way. e
ReplyDeleteWhat a lovely tribute to the importance of family. It sounds like you were quite a support for Jayne as she coped with the loss of her mother.
ReplyDeleteMerry Christmas!
How much we are reminded daily of life's fragility. God certainly knew what he was doing when creating you and Jay. What a blessing you are to all who know and love you and what a blessing you will be to those you meet.
ReplyDeleteSad news indeed but a lovely tribute to Miriam and wonderful you were able to spend time with her daughter. I know having my favourite Aunt around still has meant a lot to me since my Mum died.
ReplyDeleteYes, indeed!
ReplyDeleteMy sympathies to Jay and family.
Condolences to you both. How wonderful that you were able to offer your supportive presence to Jayne.
ReplyDeleteI am a first-time visitor to your blog and love reading about your life. More than that, it's the way you express yourself and your vision. I will visit often...thanks for commenting on my blog so that I could find yours. I'd love to read your "Things that make me sing..in 400 words, exactly", if you ever choose to write on that topic.
Patricia il mio inglese è diffettoso ma ho capito che hai perso una persona cara , ancor più per Jay che era il fratello . portagli le mie condoglianze , anche a te donna generosa e sensibile . Vi mancherà tanto ma le persone speciali e che abbiamo amato restano vive nei nostri cuori e ci accompagnano sempre e dovunque .
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Please offer Jay our condolences and love. Often times presence is exactly the perfect offering and the most appreciated.
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